Reality Affirmations
25 January 2007[Words: 624, Reading Time: ~3 minutes]Â
A personal affirmation or intention is one in which you start changing the person you are into the person you want to be. They usually start with I. “I am full of self confidenceâ€, “I have high self esteemâ€, etc. This is the way most affirmations are phrased
A reality affirmation is one that changes the world around you. Whatever we state as fact is pretty much always a belief. Fact: People are cold and shut off. Fact: It’s violent in the city. Fact: Good jobs are hard to get.
All of these “facts†are just opinions and beliefs. Do they hold true all the time? Of course not! Are they true for everyone? Does everyone think like this?
Asking, “does everyone else think like this?†is a great way to test your limiting beliefs. If you can find someone, even just one other person, who has a more empowering view of life, you can begin to break down that old limiting belief and replace it with a better one.
Reality affirmations help fill in the gaps in your thinking. If you were to say “I have high self esteem but no one appreciates me,†you’d find situations where you are under appreciated. This would eventually lead to your self esteem lowering. You’d feel under appreciated and unvalued. If you’re feeling under valued, you’re also feeling unvaluable, which is incongruent with having self esteem, since self esteem means you see yourself as valuable.
Think how empowering it would be to have this as your belief: “I have high self esteem and everyone values and appreciates meâ€
Reality affirmations are how you’ll see the world if you already lived in your ideal reality and have become the person you want to be. Say for example you were having a lot of difficulty mastering a new skill or task. Instead of saying “Making friends is really tough,†you can change this to “Making friends is pretty easy.â€
Obviously I’m jumping from one end of the scale to the other here. That’s in order to highlight the importance of using reality affirmations as well as personal affirmations. If you want help choosing what level you should pitch your affirmations, this post will help.
The real power of reality affirmations comes when we describe people. For example, you could say “People just pick on me†all the time. If you’re dwelling on this, this is what will happen. If you said “People are really kind†you’d find examples of this. Also, you yourself would be nicer and kinder to people. Whatever you want the people in your life to be you can affirm and create in this way.
Some people claim that the world is your mirror. The way we see the world is the way we see ourselves. So this is another reason why reality affirmations are worthwhile. If you see people or circumstances as not respecting or accepting you, it’s an indication of how much you’re respecting and accepting yourself.
You can use reality affirmations to change situations that currently make you uncomfortable. If you’re nervous in bars you can change this to say “the bars I go to are filled with really friendly, sociable people like me.â€
Reality affirmations work best when used with personal affirmations. For example:
- Issue: Fear of public speaking
- Personal Affirmation: “I’m a great public speaker.â€
- Reality Affirmation: “Public speaking is easy/exciting!â€
Reality affirmations don’t just have to be about concrete things, they can be applied for everything you view in the world. If you’re always feeling rushed you can stop saying “there’s no time†to “there’s an abundance of time.â€
Everything starts from inside, including the world around you. So start creating the world you want by seeing it that way.
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