Does increased confidence lead to isolation?
6 November 2006This morning I had this massive limiting belief realisation that somehow being confident and successful would lead me to isolation, which in a way had led me to being somewhat ashamed of my confidence.
I’d downplay my confidence amongst people I believed to be less confident than me. I think my internal rationalisation was that by doing so, they’d feel better that I felt insecure at times and that my lack of confidence would somehow help their lack of confidence.
Of course this fear of isolation brought those feelings into my life. By worrying about how I was perceived and the effect I was having on other people I was losing out on connecting with other people by being in the moment.
Then I started to think about the people I want to be around, and who I’d like to have in my life. Do I really want to be around people who are so low on confidence they don’t want me to be confident? No. I want to be around people who are confident and can inspire more profound and powerful emotions in me. I also want to be able to inspire people with my confidence! In some form or other, I’d been denying my life purpose with this limiting belief!
Looking at it from another way, I held the belief that success would isolate me. But success for me includes connection. In fact it doesn’t just include connection. Connection is the foundation of success for me. So I had been denying success for myself!
It is such an amazing release to have realised this and to evaporate this false belief and replace it with one far closer to my truth.
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